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Too many fancy photos in a row so here’s what I

Too many fancy photos in a row so here’s what I actually look like, on the train home at 8pm after a long day’s work.
Glasses cause my eyes were too tired from a late night last night.
Slightly fogged up glasses cause breathing.
Mask cause breathing in a pandemic.
The biggest jumper I own cause I needed a hug so I found an item of clothing that would feel like one.
Slightly messy hair cause I’ve put my hair up and down all day and I can’t decide which I want.
Headphones cause @passengermusic is playing in my ears as I am typing this.
And a picture of me cause every version of me is worthy of representation on Instagram.

First event since the pandemic and it couldn’t h

First event since the pandemic and it couldn’t have been more amazing! I was crying by the middle and sobbing by the end.

It’s such a wonderful movie and just as good as the theatre show and of course, it’s endlessly important in making people feel represented and making sure people can see their story on screen. If you can’t see yourself in media, it’s really easy to feel invisible and that you don’t matter and NO ONE deserves to feel that way

And yes, this happened on Monday I can’t subscribe to the urgency of social media. You get delayed content on this page cause this woman gets home after social interaction and gets into bed instead of curating photos and creating captions.

Thank you so much to @ditchthelabel for the invite! Thank you to my hot date @honeykinny and thanks for a wonderful event @primevideouk @jamiemovie

The dress is from @manonbaptistestudio , I got it for my first “Am I Ugly?” event and I’ve only worn it once so pulled it out for another outing. This is why I keep my clothes forever 😂

Wake Up Call: Rest Edition Tap to see tagged sour

Wake Up Call: Rest Edition

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Whenever we talk about trauma, we always talk abou

Whenever we talk about trauma, we always talk about the heavy stuff and the “negative” side of it, we rarely talk about how it affects our ability to perceive joy, fun and happiness.

For me, my trauma meant I found it hard to enjoy things because I thought being happy meant something bad would follow.
I didn’t allow myself to have fun because I always needed to be “making the most of time”.
And I always felt guilty around joy because I survived yet so many others didn’t.

How I started relearning this was by taking moments out of my day and noticing joy even if it only lasted 2 seconds.
And at first time it WAS only 2 seconds but I would stop and notice it so it could last a few seconds more and over time I could hold space for joy for a whole 5 minutes.
I actively created time for fun.
You have heard me talk before about getting a hobby you are shit at.
Painting was it for me but painting taught me to stop treating time as such a scarcity and it didn’t need to be productive time to be important.
And finally I stopped guarding my love and instead freely give it, even if it’s not received well, even if I get hurt and even if people think I’m weird.
It’s moments like when I walk into the dentist after 6 months and saying “I missed you” or turning to a stranger and saying “you know what I love about you?” simply because I noticed something great about them and I want to be sure they notice it too.

Its small things but even if you are in the depths of the lowest point in your life, I now hold on to these things. So find joy for 2 seconds today.
It can be you petting a dog, the first two seconds of the day when you don’t remember your problems or a song playing in a store and you remembering a wild night out.
Whatever it is, notice it, find the joy in your body, breathe it in and tell yourself “I deserve to experience joy”.
Write down every moment of joy you had today and do it for the next week.
I promise you it will help.
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