Michelle Elman

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I am Singaporean-Chinese, British and Ashkenazi Je

I am Singaporean-Chinese, British and Ashkenazi Jewish.
There are all words I identify with.
There are aspects of me that are connected to each one of these labels.
Sometimes I used to switch them around, will only say Chinese and drop the Singapore part. Sometimes I will say Jewish by blood, to clarify that I’m not religious.
But it was simple.
I would joke with my Jewish friends about our Jewish bums, mine passed down by my gorgeous grandmother, my Chinese friends would laugh that I’m a bad asian cause I can’t take chilli and I’d be told I’m becoming more and more like a British Rose since moving here and losing my tan.
They were all a part of me and have always been beautifully interwoven.
And then I got on the internet and suddenly I felt the need to separate each part of me and neatly segment them to make it easier to understand.
The words “racially ambiguous” was introduced to my vocabulary.
I suddenly felt like I didn’t know enough and didn’t want to share my stories connected to each because what if I was too mixed to be accepted as part of that community.
Being mixed means I will never know enough. There is too much to know.
Being mixed means I will never be enough. That much was told to me growing up.
But then I woke up one day and realised who am I doing this for?
Why was I trying to put myself in boxes to make myself easier to understand?
I know who I am.
I am firm in my identity.
It wasn’t me who was confused.
It was other people.
This wasn’t a me problem.
It was a them problem.
I know who I am.
I am proud of each aspect of me.
Let them be confused.
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I FINALLY WENT PADDLEBOARDING If you’ve been fol

I FINALLY WENT PADDLEBOARDING
If you’ve been following me a while, you’ll know my favourite thing to do is go paddleboarding and I’ve been on a mission to:
1. Find a place to go in London
2. Convert all my friends

I woke all my friends up at 7 am on a Saturday and dragged them all down to Richmond for my birthday last year only for it to be cancelled. So I promised them it would happen this year. Much to their delight, covid cancelled that plan.
But a year and a half later, I finally did it!!
I bought my own paddleboard and found a lake when I was in the country and considering I hyped it up for more than a year and a half, you’d think it couldn’t live up to expectations.

No! Wrong! It was better! My mental health has been in the toilet for the last two months, and this was the single most healing thing I have done. An hour on the paddle-board, two days in a row was the happiest I have been in a long time and to say I needed that is an understatement! We also got a row boat! That I was less successful at. Discovered I am more skilled at rotating in circles than actually moving.

Swipe to see some amusing footage. I was surrounded by haters who all thought this was a dangerous and unsafe plan.
“You need to wear a life jacket”
“It’s too cold to go”
“What if your foot gets stuck in weeds?”
“You can’t go without a wetsuit”
“You don’t know what bacteria is in that lake”
“There could be animals in there”
“You are so uncoordinated, you will fall in”

BORING!
I WAS DETERMINED.
TELL ME I CAN’T DO SOMETHING AND WATCH ME PROVE YOU WRONG 💪🏽😉
And yes I’m shouting “I am going to be so smug. I’m going to send this to my parents and be like ‘Ha! Told you so. I’m absolutely fine”

Also swipe to see the last time I went paddleboarding 😍

MY SECRET IS OUT! 🎉 I have written another bo

MY SECRET IS OUT! 🎉

I have written another book, it’s all about boundaries and it’s out on 4th February 2021!! This has been by far the hardest project to keep secret.

My biggest frustration for the last few years is that I’ve not had a resource to share on boundaries because I didn’t learn what I know from a book, I learnt it from a human - @michellezelli . But now there will be a book - mine!

You know how my favourite day of the year is Valentine’s Day? Well that’s the day I got the book deal so every part of this book has been fate. And that means yes, I wrote this entire book in lockdown. The night before I went into hospital with Coronavirus, I was popping champagne because I had just signed the contract and the day I went to Devon was the day I submitted the book.

Thank you so much to my incredible team, there’s a lot of people behind the scenes but everyone at @welbeckpublish, @ed.pr and my gorgeous agent @hayleyemmasteed who never lost faith (even when I did!).

I’m so excited for you to read it. It would mean the world (and help me enormously!) if you could hit the link in my bio and PREORDER!!! Preorders really help authors and I’m ready for the world to be revolutionised by BOUNDARIES! If you have learned anything from my content, then prepare yourselves because this book is potentially the best thing I’ve ever created so you are going to want to get your hands on it now!!

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